BDSM Facts: Submissive Men and Their Thoughts About Women Dominance
With the perception of gender roles being challenged, the concept of men being sexually submissive to men is growing more popular. In the following lines, we’ll try and convince you to give it a shot too!
Why Do Men Like to Be Dominated?
For the greater part of history, the male part of our species is inclined to have the upper hand. In most matters, they are expected to assume control and dominion. The entire perception of masculinity is summarized by sovereignty in society. But it might be that in the boudoir, secret fantasy exhibits a different state of affairs.
Contrary to popular belief, some men truly appreciate the treatment of a dominant sexual partner. Perhaps it’s the display of confidence or a suppressed need to take the backseat that fuels this kink. Either way, BDSM might be a fresh way to keep your man on a short leash and keep him wanting more.
What Is BDSM?
BDSM is an acronym that describes a special culture of sexual role-play. A struggle of power using direction, control, and toys to assert positions of power versus resignation.
B is for Bondage.
D is for Dominance and Discipline.
S is for Submissiveness and Sadism.
M is for masochism.
Submission Is Like Release of Responsibility
More often than not, the burden of providing gratification rests solely on the man. The responsibility of both achieving orgasms is placed on his penis. What’s worse is women (and sometimes other men) can put heavy pressure on their other half to keep the energy alive when knocking the boots. This makes some sense since the guy is the one that comes with the tools and hardware. But good sex takes lots of work and effort. Imagine his content if the tables were turned and you took some of the stress away by taking the lead.
It can be a wonderful thing to take the worry from a man about being the gatekeepers of all pleasure in a relationship. Men need love, care, and attention, too. And a strong, superior woman can provide her guy with enough satisfaction and reassurance to keep him obedient, so he can focus on saving his strength for challenges outside the home. Take a risk and switch roles. He will come to appreciate it.
Men Appreciate Direct and Assertive Women
It’s in the typical female nature to be gentle and kind to those they are attracted to. Yet, there is a reason why it seems like the most unfriendly fems are found in the arms of the most prosperous men. Guys are intrigued by assertive women. They like someone who isn’t afraid to take charge and make decisions when necessary, especially in the bedroom.
Nurture has taught us that gentlemen need someone meek, docile, and passive by their side to be happy. Yet, there is an unmatched, fiery attraction that men have with dominant women. Something about their poise and conviction drives them crazy. Men adore nice girls, but they obsess over direct and dominant women. Dudes associate influence with intelligence and hold pride in a person who has the attitude and prowess to take command. Make no mistake — there is nothing sexier than a woman pulling the strings.
If you have reservations, taking the lead also gives you the position and authority to set the conditions that you believe are best, as you wish. Tell him exactly what you want and how you want it. You are in complete control. Don’t just say what you need. Command it with conviction and set the standards for which you demand in sex, in your relationship, and in life.
Keeps Their Relationship Widely Open
The roles you discover turn you on maybe be different than what you are used to. Be patient and open-minded. Like with any new job, enjoy the novelty as you discover new thrills and turn-ons. Make sure that regardless of the personas you take on, that ultimately everyone is getting down. If you already know your partner likes to be dominated, that’s a fantastic indicator that they are willing to allow you to do whatever you want. Find new and exciting ways to take advantage of that power. Play with all the possibilities with a person that will let you do whatever you please. Better than that. They want it. Maybe even more than you.
Remember to be bold and throw all shyness out of the window, even if you feel overwhelmed or intimated. Keep the role of authority. Do the research necessary to be able to tell your submissive what you desire in full detail. Now that you are in charge, it is mostly your job to keep things hot. Their place is to listen and obey.
Men Can Achieve Multiple Orgasms
Generally, we figure sex is over once a man cums. Usually, it’s just “one and done,” unless you found someone incredibly special on your hands. But why should we think like this? When a woman orgasms, rarely is sex expected to stop. Sometimes that’s when it gets even more intense. So why wouldn’t we assume the same for him? Unless he falls asleep, why not keep going for as long as possible? Why not aim to please him as we would want for ourselves, for the long haul, while taking the matter into your own hands?
Sex would be worse than boring if it only involved our genitalia. Explore all parts of his body and uncover hidden erogenous zones that will make him moan. Don’t give him good sex. Make it unforgettable. Tell him all he has to do is relax and follow your rules. Although it is not common, some guys who take delight in the BDSM lifestyle report having multiple orgasms, the ability to climax more than once in a session.
Men Love to Challenge Themselves
Women “wearing the pants” in the relationship is still a controversial stance. It could be an act that all parties need time to get accustomed to. There are men that are quite curious about being dominated but could be hesitant to the idea of total submission. All good things come with patience and respectful communication. BDSM could seem extreme, overwhelming, or overly exotic at the start.
But submissive men are prone to the excitement of adventure. Lure him with the challenge of a new sexual adventure of your making. Remember, no matter what characters you play in public, no one has to know that you are the boss of the bedroom.
Any bond can grow quite boring and monotonous, even in the best of commitments, without a fresh change of pace. It’s pretty naughty to go against the grain. Men like bad behavior, and making him your sub is the chance to punish them for it. And the best part is that he will yearn for it. Maybe even beg. Let him know how inferior he is and see how far they will go to prove themselves worthy to you.